Dangerously Addicted

CHEATERS

 

What makes you cheat? Some men say, “all men cheat.” Then they say, “women cheat too, they are just better at it!” Is this really true?

I know, I know, this topic has been discussed to the moon and back; however, we are still asking. Could it be a lack of attention? Maybe, it’s just in our nature! Is it deeper? Sex addiction, perhaps?

I asked a group of men their opinion on why men cheat, let's see if you agree. They stated that men usually cheat because of certain situations, i.e. fighting and finances. I needed and wanted more clarification! Men are saying that they want to be with women who can provide “financially,” … a come up. She is also not trying to argue him down daily. CREAM! Cash Rules Everything Around Me …

I know some men WILL NOT allow their wife/girlfriend to suck their dick or do other freaky shit they like, confusing to say the least! So, instead of enjoying this type of pleasure “in house,” they turn to other women to please them. Then you have these men who see their partners (homeboy) cheating and they think it’s cool. 

Oh, then there is the serial cheater; and he cheats just because he was born with a penis. Let’s not forget about the men who have been married so long, they just want to see if women are still checking for them. 

Then you have the man who doesn’t want to necessarily cheat; but, his “good” woman doesn't want to try anything different, just the same missionary position. So he seeks pleasure elsewhere. Lastly, the men with money feel entitled to a multitude of women purely for their pleasure. They can afford to take on the extra women so cheating is just what they do.

Now women are faithful by nature and it takes a lot for a woman to go behind her man's back. Now, don't get me wrong, there are some dog ass women in the world too! These women can have the most amazing men and will still dog them the fuck out and cheat with their trifling asses. 

Let’s get back on topic. Women can and will cheat for a variety of reasons; however, “most” women will have tried talking to their man a number of times trying to explain that things just aren't right. I guess this would be their definition of us nagging. However, you're not paying us any attention or satisfying our needs. 

You're not sexually pleasing us or giving us enough sex. Hell… give us a compliment; tell us we look nice, call us beautiful on occasion; what one man won't do another one will! Women need and want to feel loved; we want mental, spiritual and physical stimulation. Allow us to connect to you and not another man.

For the most part we as women will be down for our man no matter what; but, he will still cheat. Hell we will still ride with you as long as we can see that you are trying to make it better, but if you remember a few paragraphs ago I said that women need their minds stimulated, spiritually, physically and emotionally. If all that is in place we are not going anywhere.

Ladies we have to do the same for our men in order for them to give us the things that we need. Men have to feel you’re worth doing those things for; he has to be in a place in his life that he wants to do those things. There are always going to be temptations and a secure woman wants a secure man. Real women will do the things it takes to make it happen with their man.

Women when you find your man cheating, what's the first thing you want to do; besides, kill his ass? We always want to confront the other woman first “WRONG THING TO DO,” you need to confront his lying cheating ass before you decide to even step to her. 

She could be under the impression that he is not married; though, some will fuck him because he is married. Remember, it took him to start the shit, she can't do anything he wouldn't have allowed her to do and if by chance we do take him back we have to remember to stop throwing it up in his face every chance we get. If you accepted him back in your life you're going to have to move on from it.

So then some of us turn into this woman, we start working out, not for health reasons but to keep up a good appearance for him when there was nothing wrong with you in the first place. We start doing our hair different, trying different things in bed when your freak, nasty side was already the bomb.com. 

He chose to do what he did simply because he wanted to do it. Somehow we make ourselves feel like it's something we did and we have to let him be accountable for his own actions.

Men have no idea how they play a major role in a woman's self- esteem. Insecurities in women will have them getting boob jobs, butt implants, face lifts and tummy tucks to portray what they think is the ideal woman so there man won't stray. 

“Wake the fuck up” because if he is going to cheat he was going to cheat regardless of how you look or how great your pussy feels. You can be a freak in the sheets and a lady in the streets and that man will still cheat but a queen will always know that it's his problem not hers. 

We will not always tolerate your bullshit. I say that to say this, why? Why cheat at all? Especially when there are so many diseases out there and you're not using protection and even if you are using protection you are probably still eating her pussy in which you can still contract some major shit, risking our lives.

Then you have to start telling lies, lies dating back to when you started cheating and is it really worth it. One lie after another and you have to remember the lie, don’t nobody got time to do all that lying. So just man/woman the fuck up and leave! 

Oh I'm sure some would say it's not that easy oh yes the hell it is! It's easier just to leave than to live with a constant lie and remember ladies you can't keep a man who doesn't want to be kept and vice versa.

Men when you scorn a woman there is no coming back from that and for the women who cheats on a great guy you just mess it up for someone who really deserves him. 

I so believe the same thing that it took to get her/him is the same thing that it will take to keep her/him, but I also believe if you go looking for something you will surely find something. 

I say stay faithful, loving, compassionate and make the shit work.

This topic can get real deep real quick.

Disclaimer: Just remember a relationship is built on honesty, trust, and open communication. Talk about everything. I’m not saying that all relationships are perfect because they are not, but anything that is worth having is worth fighting for.

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